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The Art of Failure

My main blog is called The Art of Failure - You can find it here. Please take a look and let me know what you think!

Posted 2 years ago

Leap

theartoffailure:

On this rare day we are given once every four years, I challenge you to leap. I challenge you - no… I dare you - to follow the choice that scares you the most. To show up and jump happily into uncertain territory where unimaginable happiness and possibilities wait.

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Friendship isn’t about whom you have known the longest… It’s about who came, and never left your side…

Friendship isn’t about whom you have known the longest… It’s about who came, and never left your side…

Posted 2 years ago

Love is…

theartoffailure:

It’s common to believe that love is this thing that comes into our lives and changes everything. It is given the responsibility of fixing our problems, taking away our pain, making our lives perfect and turning us into desirable people. We expect love to sweep us off our feet and provide us a life happily ever after.

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Posted 2 years ago

Be Love

theartoffailure:

Any other year I might be getting ready for my Anti-Valentines Party. The invitation reads: “for the lonley, rejected, and broken-hearted.” It wasn’t really that I hated Valentines Day [I secretly love ALL holidays], it’s just that Valentines Day is one holiday I’ve never really been successful with - whether in or out of a relationship.

This year I find myself recently out of what I thought might be that life-long relationship I was searching for. But I am in a different place now than I have been in years past. I have a different perspective. I know understand now that relationship didn’t work because it wasn’t right for me. I knew I needed to let go. He wasn’t in the same place - we weren’t on the same path.

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Posted 2 years ago

Giants #WIN, Advertisements #FAIL

This post originally appeared on Monday, February 6, 2012 on AprilLynneScott.WordPress.com 

For me, the Super Bowl was a great experience. My team won, I had the most amazing spicy guacamole to munch on during the game, and I had a great time with friends in person and online.

Disappointed, though? Yes. Not with the game, but with the advertisers and their so-called “social media integration” I had high hopes for brands this year… high hopes for this being the catalyst to transform television into the social TV of the future. What a big let down.

Advertisers spend multiple millions of dollars per spot for the chance to put their brand in front of a very captive audience. The audience always shows up - eagerly rushing to their televisions… and twitter… at kickoff to see the game and participate in #brandbowl. But this year, the Advertisers didn’t show up.

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Posted 2 years ago

2012 Vision Board

In past years I’ve created vision boards as a part of my new year’s resolutions & goal-setting. This year I decided to try using Pinterest as my vision board.  Follow this link to see my digital vision board for 2012: http://pinterest.com/aprillynnescott/2012-vision-board/

Posted 2 years ago

The #Question

This morning in the middle of a perfectly good cup of coffee a dear friend of mine asked a question that came across my Twitter feed:

"What’s the difference between a crush & loving someone? #Question"

This stopped me in my tracks. I stopped reading the morning headlines. Put my coffee down and caught myself staring off into space. I hurriedly sent a reply:

"Wow, don’t think I can answer that #Question in 140 characters or less…"

and then I went back to reading the headlines. But the question stuck in my head. 

Maybe I thought about the #quesion because I’m in a bit of a debate about crushes and love myself right now. It’s an interesting question.  

At the beginning - can you tell if it’s just a crush or love? Does love hit you in such a way that it makes its differences obvious? Is it just a matter of terminology?

The dictionary defines crush as:

"a usually temporary infatuation."

Love is defined as:

"A deep, tender, ineffable feeling of affection and solicitude toward a person, such as that arising from kinship, recognition of attractive qualities, or a sense of underlying oneness."

In the dictionary the differences are obvious. Even the length of the definitions seems to indicate something profound. But, when feelings of attraction begin to simmer it’s only natural to feel optimistic in the hopes that the “crush” may turn into something more.

A crush seems temporary and impossible. Like a feeling you might have for a celebrity or otherwise unavailable or unattainable individual. It seems reflective of one aspect of desire.  Attraction based on appearance, talent, power, money, personality, sense of humor, intelligence, celebrity or other single form of attraction based on one or two of these combined influences.

Maybe the better question is: “What is the difference between being in love with someone (or falling in love with someone) and a physical, intellectual or utilitarian sort of attraction?

Love, and even infatuation, would have to be multidimensional - incorporating more than one of these aspects. But love, or the state of being in love (as opposed to infatuation), is deeper than those one-dimensional attractions. Love touches your heart in a way that makes you care for that person and want what’s best for them. A concern for their happiness. Love accepts the parts of a person that are beautiful and perfect but makes room for the parts that are flawed… and continues to love. 

Love is a profound, tender affection for another person with or without physical desire. To love is to accept someone as they are. It seems we have been conditioned through society, failed relationships, past rejections and unattainable crushes to hide our love. It is vulnerable. It is a risk. It is giving someone else access to the most fragile part of you - your heart. 

There are many cliche things to say about love - but the difference between a crush and loving someone is vast - something that should have occurred to me immediately.